When i was growing up, there was an enormous pressure on us(my friends, cousins, peers) to study hard so we could be in respectable professions. Doctor, lawyer, engineer and in the case of my family even an armed forces personnel.
So its disturbing to see that suddenly these professions are being exposed of their dark underbelly.
Like the army men who were caught supporting the millitants and the doctors more recently nabbed on camera for doing the most heinous things. My mum used to scare me, when i was little, saying that if u wander about too much the bad guys lurking in dark streets will nab you, cut off your hands and legs and make you beg on the streets. (For people who know me and my wandering ways well, it wasn't as extreme as it sounds). Its like an urban legend has just seen the light of the day. And to know that your friendly neighbourhood doc could actually be that lurker is very unsettelling. What has happened to this noble profession? Have we out grown the fear of God or even sheer morality?
Sunday, July 30, 2006
Saturday, July 29, 2006
DON'T CARE ENOUGH?
This post is going to be about a topic that i've had a very strong opinion about for a very long time. My dad was in the navy and i consider it a privilege to be associated with someone who was in a profession that is so selfless. Serving in the armed forces is the most that you can do for your country. Yes there are undoubtedly a lot of benefits, like the cheap booze, good clubs, great big houses and crazy parties. But for those who are less informed, they are out weighed by the bad stuff, the danger to life being a big one. But you could be proud of that.
It is the politics that they practice that absolutely kills me. I was watching a story on the news about an army man who was one of the heros of the Kargil war ,but now seven years later when it was his turn for a promotion .he was denied one. I know that is was not the favoured topic of dinner time conversation at my house. I would confidently tell my dad that when he became captian we'd have a bigger house and i'd ride to school in his office car(Commanders don't get chauffer driven cars). He'd just be very quiet or tell me that everything is not as black and white as i saw it.... the promotions were the GREY AREA.
It doesn't matter how good you are at your job or how much your staff likes and respects you. it all comes down to you being in the good books of your boss. Yes....its not just the mean corporate world that makes a slave out of you. And yet i know that there are a few crazy people who would join the armed forces just because they want to do something for their country...for folks like us...and do we care enough??
It is the politics that they practice that absolutely kills me. I was watching a story on the news about an army man who was one of the heros of the Kargil war ,but now seven years later when it was his turn for a promotion .he was denied one. I know that is was not the favoured topic of dinner time conversation at my house. I would confidently tell my dad that when he became captian we'd have a bigger house and i'd ride to school in his office car(Commanders don't get chauffer driven cars). He'd just be very quiet or tell me that everything is not as black and white as i saw it.... the promotions were the GREY AREA.
It doesn't matter how good you are at your job or how much your staff likes and respects you. it all comes down to you being in the good books of your boss. Yes....its not just the mean corporate world that makes a slave out of you. And yet i know that there are a few crazy people who would join the armed forces just because they want to do something for their country...for folks like us...and do we care enough??
Thursday, July 06, 2006
commitment
When u happen to be in between relationships...love is not infectious anymore.
its sickening...or as my friend isha puts it..its an infection...
Is it right to keep a commitment when u get frustration, depression, neglect and expectations but no commitment.
I think that if one dosen't , in the present , feature in the future( ofcourse unforseeable things can happen along the way) then why put up with all the shit!! Why give up the fun and games if one is not sure that there will eventually be a better life!
Live life for today as in this day of smoking and a lot of drunken driving, who knows where you would end up tomorrow.
I agree it took me about half the duration of my "commitment less relationship" to realise this...but some lessons cannot be taught. You just have to live them out!!
its sickening...or as my friend isha puts it..its an infection...
Is it right to keep a commitment when u get frustration, depression, neglect and expectations but no commitment.
I think that if one dosen't , in the present , feature in the future( ofcourse unforseeable things can happen along the way) then why put up with all the shit!! Why give up the fun and games if one is not sure that there will eventually be a better life!
Live life for today as in this day of smoking and a lot of drunken driving, who knows where you would end up tomorrow.
I agree it took me about half the duration of my "commitment less relationship" to realise this...but some lessons cannot be taught. You just have to live them out!!
Sunday, July 02, 2006
Jung Type Descriptions
For those of u who might try to figure out why my blog is named INFP..its my Jung Type.
it means that i am the following
creative, smart, idealist, loner, attracted to sad things, disorganized, avoidant, can be overwhelmed by unpleasant feelings, prone to quitting, prone to feelings of loneliness, ambivalent of the rules, solitary, daydreams about people to maintain a sense of closeness, focus on fantasies, acts without planning, low self confidence, emotionally moody, can feel defective, prone to lateness, likes esoteric things, wounded at the core, feels shame, frequently losing things, prone to sadness, prone to dreaming about a rescuer, disorderly, observer, easily distracted, does not like crowds, can act without thinking, private, can feel uncomfortable around others, familiar with the darkside, hermit, more likely to support marijuana legalization, can sabotage self, likes the rain, sometimes can't control fearful thoughts, prone to crying, prone to regret, attracted to the counter culture, can be submissive, prone to feeling discouraged, frequently second guesses self, not punctual, not always prepared, can feel victimized, prone to confusion, prone to irresponsibility, can be pessimistic
and that i'd be good at that following
poet, painter, freelance artist, musician, writer, art therapist, teacher (art, music, drama), songwriter, art historian, library assistant, composer, work in the perfoming arts, art curator, playwrite, bookseller, cartoonist, video editor, photographer, philosopher, record store owner, digital artist, cinematographer, costume designer, film producer, philosophy professor, librarian, music therapist, enviromentalist, movie director, activist, bookstore owner, filmmaker
and really suck at the following
business professional, manager, executive, administrator, business owner, supervisor, office manager, business analyst, financial analyst, public relations manager, ceo, executive assistant, judge, event coordinator, lawyer, office worker
thank god i do what i do...or i'd be seriously depressed after reading this...oh! but i'm already pretty sad according to this test i took so would i be any different??
all that i've written before this is just proof of how u can kill time by doing stupid personality tests, trying to analyse someone u've be living with for, in my case, the past 27 yrs. i'm obviously talking bout myself...and who would know me better.
people know each other after only 2 or 3 yrs of a relationship or boredom wouldn't be the primary cause of so many divorces and break ups...or is it just that u think u know what u need to know and its time to rent a new book??!!
any way..the whole point of this was that u do a test and they tell u whats wrong with u...but never how u can make it better...are u expected to print this out and take it to a shrink and tell him ' fix the ones marked in green. i'd like to be judge instead '...can u go under the knife..proverbially speaking, for birth defects like that. i'm much rather have cellulite..oops...i already do..so now i'm the saddest person on the planet.
but there is a silver lining...i'm of a superior class of highly compassionate people..we comprise only 4% of the population...and that's supposed to make me feel better??
http://similarminds.com ... incase any of u want to feel good!!!!
it means that i am the following
creative, smart, idealist, loner, attracted to sad things, disorganized, avoidant, can be overwhelmed by unpleasant feelings, prone to quitting, prone to feelings of loneliness, ambivalent of the rules, solitary, daydreams about people to maintain a sense of closeness, focus on fantasies, acts without planning, low self confidence, emotionally moody, can feel defective, prone to lateness, likes esoteric things, wounded at the core, feels shame, frequently losing things, prone to sadness, prone to dreaming about a rescuer, disorderly, observer, easily distracted, does not like crowds, can act without thinking, private, can feel uncomfortable around others, familiar with the darkside, hermit, more likely to support marijuana legalization, can sabotage self, likes the rain, sometimes can't control fearful thoughts, prone to crying, prone to regret, attracted to the counter culture, can be submissive, prone to feeling discouraged, frequently second guesses self, not punctual, not always prepared, can feel victimized, prone to confusion, prone to irresponsibility, can be pessimistic
and that i'd be good at that following
poet, painter, freelance artist, musician, writer, art therapist, teacher (art, music, drama), songwriter, art historian, library assistant, composer, work in the perfoming arts, art curator, playwrite, bookseller, cartoonist, video editor, photographer, philosopher, record store owner, digital artist, cinematographer, costume designer, film producer, philosophy professor, librarian, music therapist, enviromentalist, movie director, activist, bookstore owner, filmmaker
and really suck at the following
business professional, manager, executive, administrator, business owner, supervisor, office manager, business analyst, financial analyst, public relations manager, ceo, executive assistant, judge, event coordinator, lawyer, office worker
thank god i do what i do...or i'd be seriously depressed after reading this...oh! but i'm already pretty sad according to this test i took so would i be any different??
all that i've written before this is just proof of how u can kill time by doing stupid personality tests, trying to analyse someone u've be living with for, in my case, the past 27 yrs. i'm obviously talking bout myself...and who would know me better.
people know each other after only 2 or 3 yrs of a relationship or boredom wouldn't be the primary cause of so many divorces and break ups...or is it just that u think u know what u need to know and its time to rent a new book??!!
any way..the whole point of this was that u do a test and they tell u whats wrong with u...but never how u can make it better...are u expected to print this out and take it to a shrink and tell him ' fix the ones marked in green. i'd like to be judge instead '...can u go under the knife..proverbially speaking, for birth defects like that. i'm much rather have cellulite..oops...i already do..so now i'm the saddest person on the planet.
but there is a silver lining...i'm of a superior class of highly compassionate people..we comprise only 4% of the population...and that's supposed to make me feel better??
http://similarminds.com ... incase any of u want to feel good!!!!
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